Seattle: introductions, food, and games.
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charlz_lynnI have now met the Brute's entire family -- minus one brother and his clan. And a whole bunch of her very important friends, too. Including her friend who is ten years old, with whom I am in serious friend love. I can't wait to spend more time with her -- the ten year old. I was more nervous meeting her than I was to meet the whole family (which happened the day after i arrived), because it's kinda like who gives a fuck if the family doesn't like me. Well, B, the friend, did like me, and I liked her, and we had a super super fun time that included going to Toys R Us and riding around the store on bikes and playing monkey in the middle. Sooooo good.
This whole trip has been a kind of whirlwind of social activity, and it's almost all been really good. The Brute's family was really sweet to me, and all the friends have been really sweet, too. It's nice to see that my girlfriend is surrounded by a crowd of amazing, kind, loving, fun, friendly people. And... a huge bonus for me... They seem to like me, too!
I have to admit that I don't ever want to leave. I want to just stay here and start our fucking life together right now. No waiting until June. No going back to my car that is sitting in Carlita's driveway on top of a huge sheet if ice. No lonely beautiful house where I spend too much time alone and cold. No electronic relationship. But I need to be happy with what i have while I have it. I get to see my mom almost every day and that is great. I get to cook nice food all the time, and I plan on making more efforts to see my friends in Providence. There's a potential new local date. I am going to be pregnant soon. I will spend more time crafting, and figuring out my sewing machine. And, most importantly, I am going to start working soon, whether for the census or something, anything else.
It's just fucking hard to think about leaving this temporary-but-soon-to-be-permanent life where I am blissed out for the one where I am not quite happy.
Oh, and one last thing... we went bowling today with d and g and it was a motherfucking blast.
This whole trip has been a kind of whirlwind of social activity, and it's almost all been really good. The Brute's family was really sweet to me, and all the friends have been really sweet, too. It's nice to see that my girlfriend is surrounded by a crowd of amazing, kind, loving, fun, friendly people. And... a huge bonus for me... They seem to like me, too!
I have to admit that I don't ever want to leave. I want to just stay here and start our fucking life together right now. No waiting until June. No going back to my car that is sitting in Carlita's driveway on top of a huge sheet if ice. No lonely beautiful house where I spend too much time alone and cold. No electronic relationship. But I need to be happy with what i have while I have it. I get to see my mom almost every day and that is great. I get to cook nice food all the time, and I plan on making more efforts to see my friends in Providence. There's a potential new local date. I am going to be pregnant soon. I will spend more time crafting, and figuring out my sewing machine. And, most importantly, I am going to start working soon, whether for the census or something, anything else.
It's just fucking hard to think about leaving this temporary-but-soon-to-be-permanent life where I am blissed out for the one where I am not quite happy.
Oh, and one last thing... we went bowling today with d and g and it was a motherfucking blast.
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Date: 2009-01-20 02:58 pm (UTC)and the electronic relationship
how do you feel about moving for love?
i question it. for myself (or her. depending on which one moves.) question moving across the cuntry for something based on a not-enough person events and (too much) email/chat. um. scary. how do you.... feel about it?
has anyone else in your life modeled that positively? is it viable?
(hope im not triggering you with questions)
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Date: 2009-01-21 10:30 pm (UTC)I think that the person can't be the only thing to move for when moving for a relationship. It's totally scary, but if the other person is the only thing you'll have in your new place it seems too risky to me. I feel like I have more resources out here -- much more than where I live right now. It's a hard balance.
How do you feel about it? Are you thinking of moving? To where?
I'm trying to think of people who modeled this positively and I am coming up with a few but don't know for sure if I have their facts straight. M and M, who I used to live with in pdx, for sure. But who else??
xo