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charlz_lynn ([personal profile] charlz_lynn) wrote2008-04-14 01:07 pm
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Thank you SO much, universe!

I just made and set into motion a really really big decision.

I'm going to inseminate at home, and Zelda is going to knock me up.

How did this happen? Well, let me tell you.
All along I've been feeling apprehensive about the sperm bank in Berkeley. They charge a LOT and even a registration fee. hey require that I see a doctor they approve of. But, they sell to single women and I thought they were the only one.
So, I posted this on craigslist yesterday:  
Hello,

This may be a strange request, but please don't flag me. I'm looking for an item, plain and simple. If you don't agree, then
don't respond, or go take it out in rants and raves.

I'm a young dyke, and I am hoping to find another lesbian or lesbian couple who has conceived and won't be using the rest of
their surplus donor sperm. I'm going to start the process of trying to get pregnant in the net two months, and I would rather
spend the money on cloth diapers than on sperm.

**** I am looking for left over sperm from a SPERM BANK. Thanks for your consideration, but I'm NOT looking for a MAN who can
give me sperm.****

Please, if you can help me out I will greatly appreciate it for the rest of my life. I would be willing, also, to pay for it
if you like... It would still save me the cost and trouble of shipping from Berkeley (they are the only bank that sells to
single women).

I ask that you please not respond simply to tell me that you think this is not a favorable idea or situation. I'm asking for
your help, not your opinion, and I won't engage with criticism at this point.

Thanks so much!


Of course, I got some answers from men willing to give me 'all the sperm' I need. "And it's fresh" one man told me. Thanks, buddy. BUT one woman wrote and said that she used NW cryobank in Spokane and they were great and she's a single lesbian. So I looked around.
They have inseminate at home options. No doctor registration. No information on your partners. Options for checking boxes that say 'single', the option to have them choose the donor. The website feels sweeter and more personal and not like a clinic. I called a midwife listed as someone who uses their specimens and she was really sweet - not taking new patients- and it was the first encounter I've had with a stranger who has been human about it. I introduced myself and said I was looking to get pregnant in the next two months and she said "Congratulations!"
She confirmed my feeling that I don't have to inseminate in a doctor's office even though I'm single. She made me feel so much better that, when I hung up, I started crying.
Then I called Zelda because what else would I do? She was the very first person I thought of to help me, and she was so amazing and excited and loving about it. I love her so much that now I'm crying again. I'm sooooo happy and relieved to have these things falling into place in a way that reels right and good and natural. I want my child to be conceived in a place of love and trust and calm, and they will be.
Shit I've gotta stop crying and study for my biology exam which is tomorrow.

[identity profile] mightyjo.livejournal.com 2008-04-14 08:44 pm (UTC)(link)
wow! Congratulations, sweetie! Looks like it's gonna happen the way that you WANT it to! *hugs*

[identity profile] sugarmommaless.livejournal.com 2008-04-15 12:21 am (UTC)(link)
Oh, this is lovely news!

lovely zelda

[identity profile] janespeed.livejournal.com 2008-04-15 03:09 am (UTC)(link)
i would want her to do it too.