we are truly blessed in this regard. her not being the least bit homophobic is due to a lot of things, i think. first, i never suffered from any internalized homo hatred and no one in our immediate family displayed any overt weirdness. the only uptight people we encountered were my (female) ex's parents, and fortunately, we didn't spend much time with them. we had the distinct privilege of being able to surround ourselves with all kinds of family for holidays, celebrations and performances.

my personal motto has always been 'if there's nothing wrong with it, then there's nothing wrong with it'.